The Great Divide

I'm a guy's girl, meaning I've spent most of my life hanging out with men instead of women. Like the freight train comin at ya, I prefer men's straightforward nature, their directness, their unwavering, solution-oriented trajectory. Men are simpler than women. Not less intelligent, just not round-about, underneath, from behind.
Women, by contrast, are the poison in your food. Eons of subjugation have forced us to become puppet-masters to get what we want. Not a judgment call, simply a fact that until very recently might was right, and men assumed they controlled the household with superior strength—at first to kill the mastodon and be the provider of food, and in the modern world, until recently, be the supplier of money. Back as late as the 1990s, women were still, and believe it or not still are, the primary homemakers, caring for the kids, shopping for and preparing the meals...etc.
Notice I said, “men assumed they controlled the household.” Well, you know what happens when you ass (of) u (and) me...; }
Seriously though, probably pretty early on, like cavemen times, women figured out how to get men to do what we want using our wiles—wits. Genetic transfer of memory over thousands of generations of women passing on how to be manipulative eventually became woven into the DNA and imprinted on our XX chromosomes.
Regardless of why women became...complex, the fact that we are scares me about us. Women don't only manipulate men. Quite often our children, sometimes even our friends. I'd much rather face a freight train because if I'm paying attention I can get off the tracks before getting slammed. This also plays to why I'm a guy's girl, why most of my friends have been men.
I knew I wanted kids for as long as I can remember. Two boys, I'd told any possible stakeholders, because boys are easier to raise. I now have two kids—a boy, 15, and a 12 year old girl, both of whom I'm madly in love with. Beyond proud, I'm humbled to know them. True to their 'nature,' my son is very direct with his feelings, practically the instant he feels something. He rarely lies, probably because he sucks at it, his facial expressions to the pause in his delivery clear indicators he's not telling the truth or copping to. He's a consummate whiner, but he respects the family rules and parental restrictions. My son is trustable, for which I'm eternally grateful. My daughter, on the other hand, listens carefully, expresses just the right amount of contrition and understanding with every lecture, then does whatever she wants, whenever she wants if she can get away with it.
Went to kiss her goodnight a few nights ago and she was underneath her blanket watching Manga comics videos on her cellphone. She'd been viewing nightly since we took away her Kindle two weeks ago for watching videos on it instead of reading. Reading is all she's allowed to do on the tablet, per our agreement when she got it for her birthday. (It's not too much to expect a 12½ year old to honor such an agreement when she gets plenty of electronics time on the weekends.)
While my son barely notices his reflection, my daughter spends hours in front of the mirror, preening. For eons a huge part of a woman's value was/is defined by our physicality, so it's natural, part of our nature now that our looks are important to us, or at the very least, more important to us than most men. My son likes violent movies. My daughter does not. She is deeply affected when families split up, or a parent or child dies in films and even books. Maternal instincts—reproducing and then caring for our offspring is genetically encoded in our DNA. In fact, her reaction is not uncommon. Violent movies and video games are targeted at men because they are by far the predominant audience to watch or log onto them.
Times truly are changing, though. Want a mastodon? Buy one on Amazon. Most educated women who pursue a career path can pay their own way through life now, even if we still typically make less then men. Most of us don't need a man's support to survive, or even thrive. Technology, from the Pill to the pc has made it possible for women to control our own destinies, and function equally along side men in most of today's business environments.
Sociological shifts in behavior are glacial, and true sexual equality is probably still a few generations in coming. Perhaps our great grandchildren will share equal incomes, and split the household tasks of rearing the children to doing the dishes equitably as well. From the dawn of man to present day the divide in humanity is not our race, religious orientation, education or income level. Our greatest division has been between men and women. I'm humbled to bear witness to a quantum shift in our evolution, that, first time in our history, technology is providing us the ability to become an egalitarian race, and close that great divide.

I love you, honey. Thanks for riding the crest of this wave of change, and truly becoming my partner through life.

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